Blame-Shifting to Insecurity, 6 Things to Avoid in a Healthy Relationship

Relationships are complicated. Being in a relationship calls for some adjustments and sacrifices on the part of both parties. As the world we live in is evolving, even the nature of relationships are changing. To make a relationship work, one needs to put in effort and let go of their negative tendencies. There are certain things one should refrain from, to make their relationship last. Let’s take a look at them.

1. Fighting over messages:Passive aggression that is communicated through texting back and forth with your partner when you are on loggerheads is a bane to your relationship. A phone call or meeting in person will prove to be a more effective way to sort out a fight or argument than non-verbal communication through texting. Texting is a very inefficient form of communication, as it doesn’t translate the right message and emotion and can invariably alter the tone.
2. The obsessive need to be right:When it comes to relationships, your ego should not operate before your partner. Having some curiosity to understand the point of view your partner has is more important rather than trying to prove them wrong. A relationship lasts when you add some perspective and pay attention to the emotional needs of your partner. You can lose an argument, but not your relationship.
3. Blame-shifting:Own a mistake. When your partner brings up an issue they have with something you said or did, that they didn’t like, listen and pay attention. Take this opportunity to humble yourself and for self-reflection. Don’t try to turn it around by bringing up some other issue you have with them, there will be time for that.
4. Use of electronics around them:The time that you spend eating a meal with your partner, on a vacation or on weekends is for you to get closer. If you feel disconnected from each other, observe how much of your time is spent on the phone, keep them aside, and give them the attention instead. This will make you bond with your partner and resolve differences.
5. Expectations in the bedroom:If your expectations and preconceived notions make way into your bedroom, then you would get feelings of dissatisfaction. Get playful, explore, and focus on quality and not quantity.
6. The need to monitor:In romantic relationships, fears like getting cheated on or your partner being unfaithful can creep in out of insecurity. If you feel a need to do something to prevent things from happening, take a step back, let them show up for you. Adding a little vulnerability in your relationship is important because it helps you and your partner to work on the root of the problem.